I love you

Yes, whoever who you are I love you for reading my blog and for being awesome. But more than that, I have realized something. I have said I love you to about three guys but I don't think I have loved any of them. I have been in a relationship now for almost three months and what I feel is joy of being with someone I have a lot in common with who can make me laugh, I feel valued, appreciated and even cared for, I feel happy not to be alone, and I feel passion to be with someone new who i think is cute and also seems to be a great giving amazing guy. I think these are similar feelings to what most of us feel in the beginning of any new good relationship. But sometimes we confuse the good feeling of being with someone we admire for love. What I believe love is, is that it is appreciating someone for who they are. I know that sounds like such a boring definition. Love is supposed to grow not fizzle away. Love should get stronger with the years. Lust and passion can fizzle away if there's nothing stronger behind it. Love is seeing the person who they are with all their faults, and learning more about them, seeing them in all their goodness and flaws and accepting them for that, never trying to change them. Therefore love takes a while to develop and can't be love at first sight. Can be lust at first sight. But on a first impression you can't fully appreciate the person for who they are. You don't know them. So the longer the couple is together for and appreciating each other and seeing more sides of each others personality and who they are the stronger the love will grow. With that perspective I think it takes a lot of pressure off of the relationship. I don't need to hear I love you. In all my other relationships we had said I love you in a shorter time period than the relationship I am in. I am not expecting it. We are not even close to that point. It's slow. I want to be friends with him. Possibly best friend. Just get along have fun. I want to know he cares for me and even likes me, but I can tell in what he does. My father always said action speaks louder than words and that a guy can say what you want to hear but you should look at what he does. And that's what I am doing now, I see how thoughtful he is, buying my favorite candy he heard me mention once, printing a funny picture, bringing a blanket all the small things. That shows he cares. And if this relationship is meant to last, love will come. I appreciate him for who he is and I can see he appreciates me. That's all I want.